The Her Circle Recovery (TM) model walks women through how they came into the world with a heightened sensitivity and explains the development of a dysregulated nervous system. The sensitive person then absorbs environmental factors such as a dysfunctional family, disrupted attachment with the primary caregiver, generational trauma, etc. and ultimately becomes even more sensitive.
The ongoing pain of the negative environmental influences for the sensitive female, manifests into symptoms of anxiety and depression. New research on how gut microbes and internal inflammation are related to depression is discussed along with neurotransmitters, hormones and the interconnectedness of the gut and the brain.
As the stress continues, she begins developing maladaptive coping strategies to gain a sense of control…these strategies are traits of codependency which is ultimately about having a hyper-focus on the external and a disconnect to her internal feelings and needs. Through the years, this pain builds and ultimately a substance and/or process is found to numb the layers of pain and disconnection to her deepest self, which eventually results in addiction.
The key to the model is that we must start at the outer circle, by treating the addiction and work inward. Abstinence is required for the rest of the model to work. You can’t heal what is numbed out. Neuroscience and neuroplasticity are woven throughout the model by teaching techniques to calm and retrain the nervous system.
Once abstinence is obtained, codependence is addressed by building self worth, learning conscious communication, releasing trauma from the body, and learning to set and hold boundaries.
Anxiety and depression are addressed through continued meditation practices, yoga, sleep, exercise, healthy diet, gut health, positive affirmations, the power of intention and belief, gratitude practice, emotional freedom technique, and cognitive behavioral techniques.
The environmental influences are addressed by exploring the past, family dysfunction, inner child work, re-parenting self, as well as continued boundary work. It is not about blaming anyone.
Being a person with heightened sensitivity requires giving one’s self, the right and privilege of radical self-care. This stage of recovery includes exploring the negative internal messages related to self-care and overcoming those limiting beliefs to allow one’s self to thrive. This stage requires a commitment to self, which is the best defense to avoid relapse.
The final phase of the model works through the layers of dysfunction and pain, as well as embracing the empowerment of reprogramming the brain and nervous system. The recovering woman then discovers the beauty of being a sensitive person and how vibrant life can be when not numbed out.
She becomes more intuitive, empathic, spiritually connected, and very attuned to music, art and nature. This phase includes multiple approaches to nurturing the sensitive soul through creative, intuitive and ceremonial practices.
The intent is that by discovering and nurturing this part of one’s self then life becomes so engaging and fulfilling that returning to addiction is no longer appealing.
This model can be explored through the book which I can send your the .pdf version of. Email me at Tammy@HerCircleRecovery.com for an emailed copy.